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20. I should have been more clear with you.

Sun May 25, 2025, 03:44 PM

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Tommy passed away on Jan 1st, 2025, this year from pancreatic cancer. He passed in our home, in my arms. My life will never be the same. Though I have lurked on here for years, I joined DU thinking it would distract me from the trauma and the grief I am going through. It can be an escape for me at times but the reality is, I'm lost now. All I know how to do is to take care of Tommy and our home. I won't go into more personal detail but things are really difficult for me now. You could not have known so don't feel bad, please!

As I said, reading and responding to your reply gave me comfort. I owe you gratitude for that!
Sincerely,
Reis

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