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sdfernando

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1. I came of age right at the beginning of the AIDS crisis

Reply to NCgayguy (Original post)

Sat May 24, 2025, 10:38 PM

May 24

For my 1st “real” job I moved to San Francisco and I joined the gay band there…I saw friends get sick and die. I visited some in the hospital and the related how so few of the other band
members visited….THAT made me sad and angry! How could our own brothers not offer some semblance of support.

I moved back home to San Diego not long after and joined the gay band here….still a member after almost 40 years!….we lost a lot of members over the years too. All of them in San Diego and San Francisco were young and vibrant people….to die so young! I’m tearing up right now thinking about them….how is it that I’m still here?

Anyway….I’m raising a glass to all of them right now. I miss you all!

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My Experience with the LGBTQ+ Activism [View all] NCgayguy May 24 OP

I came of age right at the beginning of the AIDS crisis sdfernando May 24 #1

I know your anger too well! NCgayguy May 24 #3

You are here Keepthesoulalive May 24 #7

Thank you! NCgayguy May 24 #10

Thank you NCgayguy! sdfernando May 25 #18

I should have been more clear with you. NCgayguy May 25 #20

Oh No! I'm so very sorry. sdfernando May 25 #22

Thank you. NCgayguy May 26 #27

My reply is to support you and your beloved husband, my dear Reis. CaliforniaPeggy May 24 #2

As do I. I hope for the day that ethnicity, gender, sexual orientation, religion, etc. all become LoisB May 24 #5

Amen! From you lips to ......... NCgayguy May 24 #9

That means so much, truly! NCgayguy May 24 #6

Thank you for posting this. Sometimes, things get better and many forget what it took to get LoisB May 24 #4

Hi LoisB! NCgayguy May 24 #8

Those of us who lived through those times are obligated to remember and pass along LoisB May 25 #14

I've bookmarked this thread JMCKUSICK May 25 #11

Thank you! NCgayguy May 25 #15

Welcome to DU Figarosmom May 25 #12

What a beautiful response! NCgayguy May 25 #16

Yes!!! I grew up in the Bay Area and spent a lot of time in SF. I hate that people paint boomers as all one thing. 58Sunliner May 25 #13

Well said! NCgayguy May 25 #17

came out @ age 16. my late mom knew all along. AllaN01Bear May 25 #19

Thank you! NCgayguy May 25 #21

I also marched on DC in '87... AntiFascist May 25 #23

Thank you! NCgayguy May 26 #25

Reagan ignored this on purpose gay texan May 26 #24

I whole heartedly agree! NCgayguy May 26 #26

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