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BainsBane

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2. I have noticed some have a tendency to see all posts about them

Wed Jan 1, 2014, 08:30 AM

Jan 2014

I commented on reactions to the Indian PSA, and two members responded that I wasn't being fair, that they hadn't responded that way. No where did I say everyone or all men responded that way. I said a handful of men. Yet somehow they couldn't imagine that I wasn't talking about them.

Then the assertion that the threads "serve no purpose" but to "antagonize." There is just this weird conception that all that matters is them. Their reaction determines the worth of a thread, not the OPs and other women. I suppose it comes from imagining everything in life is for and about them. I've never felt that way about the world, and it has never been my experience. I simply don't view threads that way unless someone is calling me out or making some other sort of reference that reveals they are talking about me specifically.

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About the hostility toward threads about rape and violence against women [View all] BainsBane Jan 2014 OP

I have always been puzzled by this. The idea that they can't comprehend that women might want to Squinch Jan 2014 #1

I have noticed some have a tendency to see all posts about them BainsBane Jan 2014 #2

Another permutation of "entitlement." Squinch Jan 2014 #5

They still don't want us to post about feminist issues! They know already, god damnit! boston bean Jan 2014 #9

Yeah, that one got their first hide. A-Schwarzenegger Jan 2014 #3

Must have been the response to me I didn't read BainsBane Jan 2014 #4

Except BS couldn't put two sentences together. A-Schwarzenegger Jan 2014 #6

Obviously that is rape BainsBane Jan 2014 #7

He really didn't know a thing about rape and certainly needs some education! LOL boston bean Jan 2014 #11

That's horribly similar to the poster I was horrified didn't get a hide. KitSileya Jan 2014 #13

can you pm me a link! my jaw is on the floor. boston bean Jan 2014 #14

That is nauseating. Squinch Jan 2014 #15

who said that? PM me, please. Thanks. n/t Tuesday Afternoon Jan 2014 #20

Did you read that dudes last response, boston bean Jan 2014 #8

No, I didn't BainsBane Jan 2014 #10

And pretended to be a black man too JustAnotherGen Jan 2014 #28

I'm sick of the pervry bastids ismnotwasm Jan 2014 #12

I think that recent one was the return of fitman from a month or so ago. ScreamingMeemie Jan 2014 #16

Except fitman is obsessed with Seabeyond BainsBane Jan 2014 #17

I have ahard time believing that those remarks are true. My guess is that the men saying that are CTyankee Jan 2014 #22

We need more discussion of these issues, that much is obvious. redqueen Jan 2014 #18

And the position being taken - "YES! We totally agree, already! Now stop flame-baiting and Squinch Jan 2014 #19

Sure are a lot of views on this post... xulamaude Jan 2014 #21

They're not right in the head ismnotwasm Jan 2014 #23

What class of people are you referring to there? whopis01 Jan 2014 #24

By "class", of course xulamaude Jan 2014 #25

More men should speak up about it whopis01 Jan 2014 #29

Yes, but YOU are responding the way a sane, adult person would respond... Squinch Jan 2014 #26

I logged off because JustAnotherGen Jan 2014 #27

I sometimes have the feeling that sometimes the hostility is justification intaglio Jan 2014 #30

In the case of the banned troll mentioned above BainsBane Jan 2014 #31

Or there's the "you hate sex"/"you think all sex is rape" strawman, which seems to be partly based nomorenomore08 Jan 2014 #33

There is also the unreasoning denial of rape culture ismnotwasm Jan 2014 #32

"If they don't want to get bombed, then they should move to a different country!" nomorenomore08 Jan 2014 #35

As always, I ask myself *why* they insist upon taking things so personally. nomorenomore08 Jan 2014 #34

I just want to know where they take this "all men are potential rapists" crap from. KitSileya Jan 2014 #36