The media’s Michelle Obama problem: What a selfie says about our biases

[redqueen]

12. Yep.

This saying sums it up:

"What you allow is what will continue."

When someone posted the pic of a woman with dick photoshopped into her mouth from Hustler, and it was defended as not being misogynist - not something that should be hidden - something that's just fine and dandy to have here on DU, that was pretty much the green light to any misogynist-leaning person. That should have been the first wake-up call to feminists on DU that things were fucked up and set to get worse.

Then we had the consensus among feminists here that we needed to have misogyny and sexism added to the TOS. When that request was ignored, that was another huge wake up call.

The victim blaming and the bullshit thrown at women like Oprah and Michelle Obama is more run of the mill sexism, stuff that I'd expect to see everywhere because, well -- because we live in a patriarchy. But the general tone is moving more toward allowing more of than stuff than shaming the people who post such misogynist bullshit into shutting the hell up until they manage to learn.

I don't know how people can stand to spend much time here, honestly. Between the standard-brand-misogynist bullshit mentioned in the OP; the nonsense from the group that's the main source of MRA bullshit on DU, the members of which have stalked this group from Day 1; the sickeningly misogynist bullshit that gets posted routinely, and if it gets hidden by a host then scads of people join as hosts of that group specifically to defend the offensive post and ensure such things aren't hidden; and the fact that someone here repeatedly posted rape-apologist bullshit in an effort to claim date rape is really just a misunderstanding? And the person who posted was not just not PPR'd, but is actually a host?

Yeah, I sincerely don't see the appeal. I miss the smart, outspoken women who post here, who call out this shit each and every time.