Why isn't it the same?

[JustAnotherGen]

4. And don't forget

Slavery by any other name - which in an of itself forced everything from the 'angry independent black woman' to the idea concept that black men by birth and nature 'take to crime':

The African American (AA) community is not monolithic. But there are a few factors at play here. One is that parts of the AA community have struggled economically because of young AA men, getting young AA women pregnant, and then moving on

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We have the perception that young black men do not step up to the plate, the reality that many cannot as America is NOT equal in terms of opportunity at birth - and then the 'psyche' of black America - the ripping apart of families, fathers sold down the river, mothers raped, etc. etc. etc.

To the OP - I think the key thing JoePhilly pointed out is that the 'black community' doesn't need to be thrown under the bus by and large.

For me - I'm part of the No Wedding No Womb movement . . . now ask me how I feel about marriage in general - I think if a gay couple wants to have a child together (be via surrogacy, adoption, etc. etc.) then they most certainly SHOULD get married in order to protect their children legally and financially. A different take on the situation - but you'll see where the woma who started this concept amongst black women (google her website) would most likely agree. Marriage for gays if for no other reason than to protect their CHILDREN financially/legally and to ensure they grow up in a two parent home.