how is everybody?

[LiberalLoner]

5. Pain and fatigue cause so much misery. I have the opinion that it's not

Really possible to be happy, when you are in pain or dead tired. You can fake it and look good to observers, but inside, it feels like a death march, just trying to endure one more day.

I'm glad you are feeling better now, with help from doctors.

I've had some problems with pain and devastating fatigue, over the past 14 years. It was such a relief to be diagnosed with MS a year ago. Before that, I was trying so hard to be normal in spite of what I was feeling, and often didn't feel well because I was pushing myself too hard. Having a diagnosis in hand allows me to be a little more gentle towards myself.

If we had a truly civilized society, we would allow naps mid-day as a matter of course.

I'm sorry for your loss of the relationship and retirement plans. I hope so much what comes next in your life will ease the loss and bring you sustained peace and joy.