opened my mouth when i shouldn't have (and maybe i'm off base in my perceptions)

[mzteris]

1. You sound like

You know what you're talking about.

You. Know.

You also probably know, but don't want to admit or explore, how this affects you. Why you're - still- there.

I suspect you know all about how and why you got involved in this in the first place. You say straight up how/when you met.

WHY? WHY? WHY...

Not him. You. Why did you get involved. Why do you stay involved. You know where it's going.

I know. I sound heartless, but I'm not really. I care about you. He obviously is not going to or willing to consider change... At this time. Maybe some other time. Some other major event. Not anything you say or do or hope or cry or pray for. You know this. You do. As hard as it may be to walk away, you owe it to yourself. You. You matter. You can't make people change. They have to want to change.

You want to give him one more chance, but you have to tell him, doc or door. His response tells you if you're important enough for him to take any responsibility for his own actions. You can't make him well. You can't make it better. You can make yourself crazy and take yourself back into depression, or sublimate or any other coping mechanism your mind has designed over the years.

In the end, it's his mental health. Or yours. If he's not willing to do anything about his, you must attend to yourself. And seriously, am I saying anything you don't already know?