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10. I'm about to face this--

Sun Dec 31, 2023, 05:03 PM

Dec 2023

A dinner party where all the men are childhood friends and will spend the entire time talking about Greenview Grade School Football games from 40 years ago (really).
I don't know any of the women. We seem to have nothing in common but men who grew up together. I'm dreading it.

One resort I have is asking questions. I try to ask questions that are relevant and not weird but will get someone talking for awhile. So I'm actually jotting down a list of questions if conversation flags, which it will.

Any ideas for questions? Some of them will have children and grandchildren, but some won't. Some will live locally and some away. Everyone does work, so I could ask about that, how they worked through the shutdown, and so on, I guess.

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I was at a party with a large group of people yesterday. [View all] zanana1 Dec 2023 OP

Are you an introvert? I finally realized that I am and I politely fierywoman Dec 2023 #1

My number one rule is get other people to talk about themselves. Big Blue Marble Dec 2023 #2

I've always been that way. Ocelot II Dec 2023 #3

Same here. 2naSalit Dec 2023 #17

People always like to talk about themselves Sedona Dec 2023 #4

This is an very good mnemonic. 3catwoman3 Dec 2023 #6

Yah, thanks for this, I too have trouble in any size group if I don't really know a lot of people.... a kennedy Dec 2023 #7

Not exactly similar, but I don't do 'small talk,' so prefer to avoid large gatherings elleng Dec 2023 #5

I am absolutely an introvert. I've often wished... 3catwoman3 Dec 2023 #8

I know what you mean! viva la Dec 2023 #11

As an introvert, Wuddles440 Dec 2023 #9

I'm about to face this-- viva la Dec 2023 #10

Have been that way since my 20s and have accepted it. Silent Type Dec 2023 #12

I'll give you a hint that I use for myself. Yes, I do feel that I run out of things to talk about, and others have the SWBTATTReg Dec 2023 #13

I am a introvert. Woodwizard Dec 2023 #14

I let myself get talked in to going to a very holiday themed restaurant Siwsan Dec 2023 #15

Oh yes, I too feel weird in large groups Tesha Dec 2023 #16

Yes. I have medication for depression. But at recent appointment, my PA suggested I may have generalized anxiety Iris Jan 2024 #18