So he's done some here and there, but it always seems to come with some passive aggressive behavior.
On my drive home from work Friday we were talking on the phone. I have a hands free option. He said he was going to clean his mess up before I got home. AWESOME!
I had thanked him the other day for some clean up he had done.
I've explained to him how I am trying to set up certain areas for specific tasks and the dining room table is to only be used for us to eat together.
I moved him and his laptop(s) to the large coffee table in front of a very comfy love seat. So that he can leave it set up and still leave the dining room table open for when I get home to make dinner.
Everything went well until I said this.... "If you will the the ice cream, I will clean up the dishes." I waited and waited. I told him I couldn't wait any longer, so I would get the ice cream. I took my dishes and brought him ice cream. He left his dishes. They are still there.
I guess I need to ask him if he only heard the second part.
Because THEN the passive aggressive behavior came. I was very tired and went to bed early because I had to work today.
So he started coming in the bedroom and talking to me. He might be going deaf or just selective hearing going on.
I restated that I am in bed, sleeping because I have to work tomorrow. "OH yeah, I forgot." He said.
Then somewhere around 2am he comes into bed making a lot of noise and movement so my bladder and I went to the bathroom. I came back into the room, he said he needed the light on to put in some eye drops. So I turned on the lights. Figuring that he would put in his eye drops. He did. Then turn off the light. Sometime after 3am the light was still on. I tried to go sleep on the couch, but I'm a side sleeper and it just doesn't work. Around 4:30am I came back to bed and sort of slept.
I pushed work out to 9am instead of 8am and then went shopping on my way home and carried in all the heavy groceries except one bag with apples and a 12 pack. He and I discussed how I am doing all this on an extreme lack of sleep.
He's obsessed with AI art programs and is on his phone non stop.
He was ALWAYS the one who would keep up a routine and it was ME that was the oops I forgot, damn it.
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