Need to vent.

[TigressDem]

12. For some reason he sees me cooking for him as "love" so I'm ok doing it most of the time.

We bought a slow cooker so I can start something up before I leave for work and on our list I have "set table" and "clean up" as options, so I guess he thinks I can do those things ALL BY MYSELF all the time....

I put place mats on the dining room table and we are using a laptop to watch our shows so he winds up with his arms over those while I am trying to set the table, SO if I put one or the other on him (probably set the table) then he may decide it's easier for him to get the laptop set up before he puts dishes down.

IDK. I guess it's about showing process and functionality.

In MY MIND, the place mats on the table are for putting dishes and food down. SO it makes sense to me that he sits at the 3rd chair to configure the laptop and turn it around when it's ready. I stated that. He won't do what I ask.

So I switched our eating space and he is using the same passive/aggressive tactic there. His work laptop is at the dining room table. He's got the other laptop at the coffee table.

IF I come up with a system that is clearly communicated, it's like he HAS to rebel, and believe me, I get that. I am a rebel myself and I have to use all kinds of positive mind games to get myself to do what I need to do.

IRL he obeys all the other rules. It's only with me that he feels he can pull this shit.

I guess, I should feel honored in a strange way because that means I am his safe person.