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SleeplessinSoCal

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35. New issues become priority

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Sat Jul 22, 2023, 12:59 AM

Jul 2023

She has continued to lose weight since early May. She is 5'10" weighs 104 lbs. Normally 125. She has trouble eating because she thinks food isn't going down the right pipe. I just made her eat fruit salad as she ate very little supper.

She'll be taken to ER tomorrow in part to test for UTI. Her son and d-in-law will come to take her. If they see signs of her body breaking down, they'll admit her to treat her for anorexia. She's not as thin as some, but she is scary thin to me.

If they keep her all the tests will be done. This is a Kaiser facility. They are aware of the possibility of her being kept there.

We have back up plans. Sunday close friends can take her for a drive and a walk. She wants to stay in bed. So my fingers are now crossed that she'll spend tomorrow night in the hospital. Otherwise she can be tested Monday when she has an appointment with a new Kaiser primary doctor, a DO. Why there are so many DO's is beyond me.

https://www.mayoclinic.org/healthy-lifestyle/consumer-health/expert-answers/osteopathic-medicine/faq-20058168

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I need help [View all] SleeplessinSoCal Jul 2023 OP

Oh my. Hugs and prayers. If it was me.. Joinfortmill Jul 2023 #1

you have a LOT going on. Please take care of yourself first.. samnsara Jul 2023 #2

Ditto on taking care of yourself! mizogan Jul 2023 #20

I'm sorry, you are going through all this and I think you might get Bluethroughu Jul 2023 #3

I had a total mental breakdown in 1990. multigraincracker Jul 2023 #4

I think you are misunderstanding. It is the sister who wants to commit niyad Jul 2023 #22

Sorry, it'd be good for her multigraincracker Jul 2023 #27

Can someone from the Alzheimer groups hook you up with respite care for your Spouse? irisblue Jul 2023 #5

I'm so sorry you have to go through this. I was told years ago not to worry if something Maraya1969 Jul 2023 #6

ECT has come a long ways. multigraincracker Jul 2023 #15

I'm so sorry ebbie15644 Jul 2023 #7

Thank you one and all. SleeplessinSoCal Jul 2023 #8

This is absolutely too much for one person to deal with. Either one of these problems enough Jul 2023 #9

I'm going to be speaking with her son. SleeplessinSoCal Jul 2023 #11

You sound as if you've reached your limit. If so, you must admit that you need professional help. ancianita Jul 2023 #10

Support Jean Genie Jul 2023 #12

Compassion fatigue is real dlk Jul 2023 #13

Is her condition, schizophrenia? That needs a different approach than meeting with a social worker. 3Hotdogs Jul 2023 #14

Clarification - a social worker may be able to assist you in finding aid in addressing the care of 3Hotdogs Jul 2023 #16

This is too much for one person to deal with. MontanaMama Jul 2023 #17

I agree PlutosHeart Jul 2023 #19

Call 988 Wicked Blue Jul 2023 #18

I really feel for you. EndlessWire Jul 2023 #21

If you're all over 65, elder affairs might be able to help Warpy Jul 2023 #23

oh, it is so much to deal with markie Jul 2023 #24

There are some excellent suggestions here, so I hope that they help. All I can niyad Jul 2023 #25

Hang in there honey kimbutgar Jul 2023 #26

she won't talk to them. SleeplessinSoCal Jul 2023 #28

Your situation has a number of high risk red flags of serious concern. Irish_Dem Jul 2023 #29

Thank you so much for your reply. SleeplessinSoCal Jul 2023 #30

Whether you are afraid of her or not, the high risk red flags are still present. Irish_Dem Jul 2023 #31

I spoke to my brother this morning SleeplessinSoCal Jul 2023 #32

You are making progress. Irish_Dem Jul 2023 #33

Have you tried a warm line? Jillgirl Jul 2023 #34

New issues become priority SleeplessinSoCal Jul 2023 #35

Everyone here has been so helpful and I appreciate all of your concerns and hugs. SleeplessinSoCal Jul 2023 #36