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Cancer Support

Turbineguy

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2. Nobody knows what the hell they are doing.

Reply to cynatnite (Original post)

Wed Apr 18, 2018, 07:50 PM

Apr 2018

And the learning curve is straight up.

I went through this 5 years ago. We got my Mother in Hospice care. These people can really help you. You are doing this once and for the first time, they have experience.

It sounds to me like you know a lot about what needs to be done. If you are the one on the scene and have to make the decisions, then nobody else can complain later (well they can, but you don't have to feel bad about it).

BTW I organized and prepaid for the cremation, saving 400 bucks. I never told my Mother, but she would have appreciated the savings!

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I honestly don't know what the hell I'm doing... [View all] cynatnite Apr 2018 OP

Trust your instincts voteearlyvoteoften Apr 2018 #1

Nobody knows what the hell they are doing. Turbineguy Apr 2018 #2

I agree with hospice, my mother passed in December and was first in palliative care blueinredohio Apr 2018 #7

During the last couple of days I was able call them Turbineguy Apr 2018 #14

How could anyone expect you to know what you're doing? Rorey Apr 2018 #3

First, my heart goes out to you. Siwsan Apr 2018 #4

great advice! Long Term memory goes last but im not sure how that works.. samnsara Oct 2018 #24

I'm so sorry Phoenix61 Apr 2018 #5

First, I suggest you find a local cancer support group. They can assist you in whatever way you need sinkingfeeling Apr 2018 #6

This message was self-deleted by its author sinkingfeeling Apr 2018 #8

You have perfectly described what its like to be a caregiver for a seriously ill parent. enough Apr 2018 #9

Thank you all! cynatnite Apr 2018 #10

I believe that Advance Directives are legally binding Rorey Apr 2018 #12

Your sister may not mean harm Rorey Apr 2018 #13

Your state probably has rules about Advance Directives RandomAccess Apr 2018 #18

As far as diet goes.... Rorey Apr 2018 #11

My dad had lung cancer. procon Apr 2018 #15

what a great account RandomAccess Apr 2018 #19

Lots of good advice above. Yonnie3 Apr 2018 #16

When my uncle went into a coma for 4 weeks, I learned a few things Farmer-Rick Apr 2018 #17

You are stronger than you think. alfredo Apr 2018 #20

Make sure you mother knows you love her and will care for her. JayhawkSD Apr 2018 #21

My experience with food when on chemo Jim Lane Apr 2018 #22

(((hugs))) samnsara Oct 2018 #23