Two questions - Sorry it was more than six months ago that I posted my announcement

[marble falls]

1. First of all, you've had a rough haul fighting this cancer and my prayers are ...

with you.

Regarding DNR/DNI, the correct time is when you know in your heart this is no more ground to contest with your cancer to meaningfully extend your life and before that decision becomes substantially out of your hands. At the point you are with your cancer now, it may be well the time to sort it out in your mind and to make your decision known to all parties - designating someone you trust implicitly to act in your interest if the time comes that health events overtake your ability to give consents or orders to accomplish your wishes.

I admire your courage and strength. I've had exactly one chemo and I was shocked how it took the stuffing out of me. I've discussed DNR/DNI with my primary physician and my wife and anybody who knows me knows my wishes, even though with the cancer I have - bladder cancer - it may be years and years before DNR/DNI becomes immediate.

DNR/DNI discussions do not mean you're giving in to your cancer, its means you've got one more strategy in keeping your life in dignity and out of desperate struggle with no good results. Its not about letting cancer win, its about maintaining your own control.

I feel maintaining control of how we treat my cancer helps me stay healthy and that includes using the DNR/DNI as another tool, only helps me stay as healthy as possible.

My prayers are with you.