I cannot believe it.

[OldBaldy1701E]

As some of you may know, we are in a bit of a situation here in baldyland. We have to move and it has become plain that we cannot afford to move. Well, I finally found something that is within our price range and fits the bill in other ways as well. And, we went through the entire process, applications, fees, getting approval and signing a lease. Then, we went to transfer the money to finalize the deal.

Now, there have been some things that made me feel a bit leery, but I had thought that everything seemed okay to do this. Well, we made the transfer and the receiving bank returned it. Something about not being able to confirm the address of the recipient. So, I informed the person and my hubby went down to our branch to see what had happened. While there, he googled the address. It was a gas station. Then, the person replied that he had made a mistake and sent us the correct address. So, my hubby googles it before returning to the bank and it is a CVS pharmacy. Plus the address for payment is on the other side of the state from the address of the owner.

Now, we are suspicious. So, I let the person know our position. He replied that it was a mistake and he was confused that we were concerned at this point in the process. I have been going back and forth with him and now I am just over the entire thing. I went out on a limb to convince my husband to go with this place even though we have not seen it in person (virtual tour only), and now this shit crops up.

This greedy society is why I am about to die on the streets like a stray dog. We are looking at complete ruin thanks to being duped by a spoiled little rich boy and now we have to leave and there is no where to go and no one to turn to.

I don't know why I draw another breath, to be honest.

[SheltieLover]

1. Rental scams have become quite common from what I've seen in the news.

Pisses me off to no end!

I'm so sorry you're in this situation. Maybe do a gofundme to help defray moving costs?

[CountAllVotes]

2. That's just awful!

I feel for you!
I got ripped off buying a used car.

They are looking for old folks thinking we are all rich (and we aren't!).

Can you put a STOP payment or has the check been cashed?

Sad for you!

[OldBaldy1701E]

12. Nope, no money has been exchanged.

Please understand this. I put my neck out big time to convince my husband that this was an okay thing. If we decide to walk away, I will never be able to tell anyone anything ever again. I have spent the last decade being ignored about things even as I have been proven correct about 99% of them. Now, that there will be a 'reason', on one will listen to me ever again. This has ruined everything for me.

Fucking everything.

Please someone... help me end this. I don't care anymore. Just let all of this bullshit end. All I wanted was a life that I found fulfilling. And, because that life was not in slave labor service of others until I die or get rich myself (which I could care less about), I must suffer and die alone in a gutter.

And people wonder why I am so cynical.

[Deuxcents]

3. Doesn't sound like a "mistake" and twice is no coincidence. Sounds like a scam and I'd report him

Make a police report and then go to your state’s attorney general. They go after people like this

[CountAllVotes]

6. The situation here is one of fraud

I've contacted/written to an assortment of people.

No compensation and it has been over 18 months now; attorney general too!

Such a disgrace!

Fellow humans be aware!

The thieves are out with long knives!!!

[Deuxcents]

7. I'm sorry to hear about this..I hope your settlement comes soon 🌺

[CountAllVotes]

8. I'm not optimistic

I have an attorney ....

He doesn't seem to give a shit.

It is in arbitration now whatever that means (??????)

[LoisB]

4. What a horrible situation. I am so sorry.

[LoisB]

5. Assuming you are seniors, are there any Senior Citizen Advocates in your area? In CA, we

have the CA Dept of Aging which provides all sorts of assistance including legal.

File a police report
File a report with your bank and the recipient's bank

I wish I could offer something more useful than prayers that everything turns out ok.

[OldBaldy1701E]

11. The issue is this.

If this has been an honest mistake, doing all that could impact him in a major way. If we are going to declare war on this person (and, doing this stuff will certainly start one), we need to be sure. Otherwise, he could spread this story and, if he did make an honest mistake, could ruin our chances to get anything for good. So, that is part of the issue.

I am in Minnesota. I am betting they do have the same programs, but I am not 'of age' yet. Won't be for two years. (I won't make it two years as things stand.) Plus, I have been trying to get Social Security Disability and they refuse to give me anything. I am done with them. If they cannot help me, I cannot help them. Face it, there is no help for a old, white male. I am supposed to be rich and living the good life. If I am not, then I must not be worth the trouble. And, that stands, as no one has stepped forward to do anything.

What is funny is these same people would be telling me the most inane shit if I were to tell them I wanted out. Like their sympathies are going to do anything other than make themselves feel a bit better because they 'offered sympathy'. That way, when I pass, they can say, Well, we tried."

[PoindexterOglethorpe]

9. I take it you were no where near enough

to actually visit the supposed rental?

[OldBaldy1701E]

10. We were informed that we were not to do so.

The current tenant is being harassed by people trying to see/rent the place. (This is his explanation.)

We know the place and did drive by and circle it. Of course, it is a building and there is not much to see from the outside.

Yes, I know how this sounds. You don't know what position we are in. This was going to save us. Now, I doubt we can find anything that we can afford and that will allow me to continue my medication. (Medical Cannabis user.) Pretty much every place I have been looking at is 'no smoking'. For most of them, it is not just no smoking in the apartment it is no smoking within 25 ft of the building. This is a MAJOR issue. I find one place that does not care about that, and now I have to decide whether or not I want to live as long as I can, or be put in a position where I cannot address my issues successfully and will probably lose it within six months. My husband has seen what happens when I don't have anything to help me with my mental issues. (I cannot try anything else because they are prescriptions and are out of my price range. Yes, buying cannabis is cheaper than getting proper mental help medications when one is not wealthy enough to get actual help. Such help is usually not found in the programs offered to the 'masses'.

So, I am left with three choices. Try a spot that denies me my medication and have a major meltdown and ruin two lives, live on the fucking street in one of the coldest cities in the fucking US, or just call it a day and check out. If I were 20 years old, the first two would not be so impossible. I am not, nor have I been for a long time. AllI am doing is marking time anyway. I can't do a fucking thing, and no one wants me to, even if I could.

Why am I still here? It makes no sense. Is some deity getting a major laugh at my expense? It seems like the ruling oligarchs are.

[PoindexterOglethorpe]

13. Okay, I'm going to be brutal here.

Being told not to visit the place, along with being given TWO different locations is such a huge red flag. I am very sorry you fell for this, but you should not have. Sadly, yesterday I learned that someone I know fell for some kind of a scam, one that had her spending a thousand dollars on gift cards and sending the numbers on to someone.

The other thing is your medical cannibis. Can you only smoke it? Can't you take it some other way? Every place is non smoking these days. And has been for decades, so not being allowed to smoke anything at all, weed, tobacco, whatever, is hardly unusual.

[OldBaldy1701E]

14. So far, combusting the flower is what works best for me.

I understand that there have been restrictions about such things. I also understand that, in my house, it is my house. If I cannot control what goes on inside of it, why am I there? It seems silly to me to not have control over your own premises. It comes off like the current debate going on between the game manufacturers and the players, where the makers are saying that despite your purchase, you don't actually own the cartridge. No, smoking restrictions are not unusual. However, these restrictions also include most of the areas around the building as well as most of the park that is one block over. So, I would have nowhere to go within a mile or more. Plus, being in the tundra (Minneapolis... despite the advances, it is still frigid to me in this city) is not conducive to outside activities during almost half of the year. This was never an issue before, as everywhere I have lived did not concern themselves with policing your behavior. Yes, I am aware that smoking can do damage to interiors. The level of smoking that would have to go on is beyond my ability. And, I don't sit around with ten other people 'wasting the day' all the time either. This is medication. Yes, I was a rocker for many decades and I have done much worse. But, cannabis is and was my savior many times in my life and to finally have it recognized as such only to have it removed is just ridiculous.

So, it appears as if we are done with this scammer and are at the bank trying to save our finances and our identities from this error. I doubt that we will be completely able to do so. I failed again. Again. I should have unlocked another level of 'fail' from all the failing I have done in the last few weeks. I pushed for this because it was perfect. I should have remembered. Nothing is perfect for the poor and discarded. Nothing is even manageable.

It is all struggle. All work and no play. That old discussion about how poor people are usually the ones doing the most and dealing with the most. It is true. If I had a lawyer, and a rep out there doing the footwork, if I was wealthy and had connections, we'd find the perfect place with no muss and no fuss. This is by design.

Now it looks like we will have to get the non-smoking one. I will have to stop medicating. This will make the benefits I get from it lessen. That means I will be trying all the other ways and they won't do the job to the extent I need them to. That means another manic episode will be on the way soon after. Then, maybe some time in a ward, or maybe even a jail cell. And all because I cannot just go medicate on the roof or behind the building. Wild eh?

Who knows? Maybe this time I will be irrational enough to actually do something.

(Thanks for the suggestions that will come in, but I cannot afford to address any of this in a way that would actually work, because such real solutions are only available to those who can afford it. I cannot. Yes, buying cannabis is cheaper than fixing the issue. Think about that.)

[OldBaldy1701E]

15. So, it looks like we will have to go with the one that is non-smoking.

My poor husband. Nothing else seems to keep me level-headed (that is available to a poor person, that is) and we don't have much choice. He is going to have to deal with a raving lunatic. He knows the score. He has seen it many times.

(Also, the comment about a 'spoiled little rich boy' was in reference to why we moved to this state in the first place. Not the person we have been dealing with over the apartment.)

[OldBaldy1701E]

16. I don't think I am doing all that well.

I just wander around the house looking at the things I have to do and not doing them because I just cannot find it inside of myself.

I have never had this problem before. Of course, plenty of the problems I have been having in the past few years are new. I am not sure what to do about it because I don't seem to be able to think as well as I used to.

Between this and my husband showing signs of... something... (dementia? Parkinson's?), I am getting pretty worried. I don't know, but his situational awareness is fading fast. He seems oblivious to everything except his phone. We used to make fun of seeing people sitting in a restaurant and both staring at their phones through the entire meal. Now, he is the one doing it.

Chest pains have started again. Oh well, I guess one can hope for a 'final solution'.

(So, we are trying to check out a few new possibilities. We have not yet filled out the application for that one place I mentioned, but I have pretty much lost my appetite for dealing with this shit. I may have cost us our life savings and our identities thanks to that fucked up situation from before, and now my mind and body are trying to fail me once again. I didn't ask for any of this.)