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onethatcares

(17,010 posts) Sun Jan 11, 2026, 11:04 AM Jan 2026

this just doesn't seem right

my wife passed due to 14 yrs of suffering from this horror and we had the same oncologist for that entire time.
I just received a card from him saying that he made a donation in her name to himself.

Is that self serving ? Or just weird?

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this just doesn't seem right (Original Post) onethatcares Jan 2026 OP

On it's face it sounds like tax fraud but there might be more to it. I can't walkingman Jan 2026 #1

Its' a horrible situation, personally for you on both your and your ex-wife's behalf, RockCreek Jan 2026 #2

Seems weird to me surfered Jan 2026 #3

Definitely weird. 3catwoman3 Jan 2026 #4

That just doesn't seem right. TommieMommy Jan 2026 #5

It seems weird to me. cate94 Jan 2026 #6

walkingman

(11,153 posts)

1. On it's face it sounds like tax fraud but there might be more to it. I can't

Reply to onethatcares (Original post)

Sun Jan 11, 2026, 11:09 AM

Jan 2026

see why someone would not just say they made a "donation in her memory" and leave out the "to himself" - it does sound weird.

RockCreek

(1,499 posts)

2. Its' a horrible situation, personally for you on both your and your ex-wife's behalf,

Reply to onethatcares (Original post)

Sun Jan 11, 2026, 11:14 AM

Jan 2026

and that you are even spending an ounce if your energy to think about it.

That said, said seriously but a little tongue in cheek, is he MAGA?
It might just be him "trying to keep up with the Jones" in that case.

surfered

(14,272 posts)

3. Seems weird to me

Reply to onethatcares (Original post)

Sun Jan 11, 2026, 11:26 AM

Jan 2026

3catwoman3

(29,791 posts)

4. Definitely weird.

Reply to onethatcares (Original post)

Sun Jan 11, 2026, 11:51 AM

Jan 2026

Wishing you strength and serenity.

TommieMommy

(3,074 posts)

5. That just doesn't seem right.

Reply to onethatcares (Original post)

Sun Jan 11, 2026, 12:05 PM

Jan 2026

cate94

(3,123 posts)

6. It seems weird to me.

Reply to onethatcares (Original post)

Tue Jan 13, 2026, 05:16 PM

Jan 2026

Sorry for your loss.

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