Update: Still stage 4, still alive, now on Enhertu
Hi DU friends!
Just checking in! I made it past another birthday, and more happily, I made it to my miracle granddaughter's second!!! 
I still have serous endometrial carcinoma metastasized to my lungs. It never even reached a lymph node, but Kaiser made me wait so long for surgery from an in-network surgeon when it was first diagnosed, it got through the pelvic wall and into my bloodstream, apparently. I will never stop wishing I'd insisted harder, or offered to travel or something, anything, but I did all the pleading I could. Too late now.
Regrets aside, the cancer is still HER2-positive, which means it can be treated with Herceptin (Trastuzumab), a monoclonal antibody, but that stopped working. Enhertu adds deruxtecan, which is the chemo "payload," so it's an "antibody-drug conjugate" (ADC).
The chemo is not as bad as carbotaxol. It causes fatigue and nausea, and some people lose all their hair (mine has thinned a bit). The good news is my tumors were smaller on the last scan. Dangerous side effects happen to lungs and heart and I had a little scare there -- some odd "nodules" like bronchiolitis (?) that made me afraid they were going to stop my infusions -- but a pulmonologist said they didn't look like Enhertu caused them, and I think I'm okay. 
Hope all of you and yours are doing well, too! Every day matters. Hang in there!!
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I surprised myself! Honestly did not think it would happen.
is kind of one, but I can always hope for more... like outliving the orange cretin in the White House. 
I hear you on the failure to follow-up promptly by your providers, yet I also see your positive attitude coming through. I hope you sustain that as these medical options work for you. I feel and send positive thoughts, prayers, vibes your way.
Much appreciated!
I hope you have many more good days ahead of you my friend. 
but I do, anyway. I wish she could remember me. But having the experience of knowing her is enough, really.
Thanks for the good wishes.
It's such a monster. Someday, the key to a cure will be found, no doubt. 
And thanks.It is truly appreciated. 
If you are the least bit dissatisfied with your doctors or insurance, fight with all your might. You deserve the best.
Take care friend, and please keep us posted. You're in my thoughts.
Thanks for thinking of me.
But sounds like you're dealing with the best you can. I hope you have family/friends to support you and buoy you up when you need it.
All the best to you, I hope for a successful outcome for you.
and awesome friends, as well as a caring daughter and husband, plus two dogs who never leave me alone!! 
Thanks for your kind note!
I miss my vitality, and I feel guilty for the days that go by that I waste. I think it takes some focus to live well, and I'm still figuring that out.
The experience of seeing her grow is like nothing else! Thank you for the positive thoughts!
No, it can't hurt!! More than once, I prayed for my daughter's life to be saved - she was in the throes of heroin addiction for many years - and for mine to be taken, especially if she could become healthy enough to have a child of her own (which doctors thought might not be possible). By all statistics and common sense, there is no way for her to have lived through what she did and recovered, but she did!
She completely turned her life around and found a way to thrive. At the same time, I found out I have a deadly cancer. And then, while I was going through treatment, we found out she was pregnant!! Life is strange ... but it's made me wonder about prayers, or at least fervent wishes.
Thanks for the positive thoughts!
Fucking ins cos...
Healing vibes flowing to you.
And I agree about insurance co's. Thanks for the vibes!!
Thanks!
which isn't bad at all! Thanks for the good wishes!
It does change life and perspective, and I do love the nurses in the infusion center!! Various friends drive me there because they give me meds that make me super drowsy, and my husband (Stinky) is limited in driving lately. It's nice to see them, even though I'm mostly too out of it for that to be a real social visit.
And thank you, friend!
Anything is possible! Thanks, Scrivener7.
"Sparkle on!" 
Sounds like it should have been a disco tune back in the day (or one of my outfits)!
What a great slogan! Short ‘n’ VERY sweet!
Just glad you’re still here!
I'm glad you - and all of DU - are here!!!
Much appreciated!
Thank you for the encouragement, hugs and love.
soorry I can't help it.. 💔
💙 ☮️ 🌻🕯️🕊️💜
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grateful for any progress you make. 
I say this to myself when I need it. And you are so Strong.
Thank you, my dear sweet friend!!
"You never know how strong you are until being strong is your only choice."
I hadn't heard that quote before, but it's perfect. In so many ways, it's always been perfect, right?! I'll remember it. Thank you (and Bob Marley).
a few times over the years. I saw it on FB years ago.
I was going to paraphrase, but decided to look it up and post the exact Bob Marley quote. 
Love you, Sparkly, Strong Woman. 💙 ☮️ 🌻🕯️🕊️💜
You and your family will be in my thoughts and heart.