17 Toxic "Lies" Society Normalizes About Women That Are Actually Scams, According To Older Women

[CousinIT]

https://www.buzzfeed.com/lizmrichardson/toxic-things-about-women-society-normalizes

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"My husband was 48 when we married. I've been blamed for his video game hobbies, his night-owl habits, his weight gain, and his perpetually untied shoes. There is nothing a man can do that can't be blamed on a woman."

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"Turning 30 today. The big one: Motherhood will make you happier. The part they leave out is that it will only make you happier if you really want it, and it won't all be sunshine and rainbows. My friends who have undertaken motherhood are unhappy, often dealing with the trials of small children, and are often shamed for not loving every second of their time with their kids."
"Motherhood is a choice that has to be for you, and even if you choose it, it might not look conventional. But it isn't the only measure of your worth as a woman."

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"The need to have a partner/husband, or at least to try finding one by dating. My life is peaceful since I don't even date anymore, and it has given me the best years of my life so far. And I have never been lonely."

. . . MORE at the link: https://www.buzzfeed.com/lizmrichardson/toxic-things-about-women-society-normalizes

[Srkdqltr]

1. My dad's cousin lived to be 103. Never married. Lived a good life.

I believed she lived long because she didn't have to put up with a husband.

[kimbutgar]

2. I have a lot of baby boomer friends who aren't married and are very happy!

I got lucky and married a guy with three sisters who had a Mother who said he also had to do housework and learn how to cook. He has always supported me in my ambitions just like my Dad did with my Mother. I had a bad disaster first marriage that if I stayed I’d be dead by now as he was a woman’s place was in the home doing all the housework but also needed to contribute to the family bank account by also working.

I would not want to be a young unmarried woman now in this society !

[CousinIT]

4. I read that the Gen Z women are not subscribing to the patriarchal bullshit. In contrast though...

...it seems a lot of Gen Z men are all in for patriarchy and the religious tenets that promote it - and/or against feminism or the idea of women as equals or humans.

If true, that doesn't bode well for the men, and it does worry me because the world needs both decent, wise men and decent, wise women. Our society, political system, etc., need both.

https://www.kcl.ac.uk/news/gen-z-men-and-women-most-divided-on-gender-equality-global-study-shows

https://www.shethepeople.tv/opinion/genz-gender-gap-feminism-2470376

Though it is a concern, I don't think women should cede ground on this.

We often expect that from older men who grew up in a different era, so it's interesting that Gen Z is so resistant and resentful.

[Warpy]

5. Goody for them. More than half of us didn't find that degree of unrelenting marital bliss

and fled for reasons from domestic violence through substance abuse and into the boredom that exists between two people who are either unsuited or who have simply outgrown each other. I was one of those and my friends ran the whole gamut.

I can say that my 40 years without him have been much better than the years I spent with him. Just the reduction in stress and work load were enough to convince me to remain single, a crazy cat lady with a job that paid the rent. It was enough.