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ProudMNDemocrat

(19,853 posts)
Thu May 22, 2025, 07:22 PM May 22

Saw Gov. Tim Walz this morning at my husband's Memorial.

Last edited Fri May 23, 2025, 08:08 AM - Edit history (1)

My husband of 53 years, Phil Castrovinci, died on May 18th of Congestive Heart Failure, coupled with Type II Diabetes, resulting in organ failure.

But he and Tim Walz go way back to late January or early February 2005 when they attended Camp Wellstone together over in St. Paul. Tim had not yet decided to run for Congress and was getting acquainted as to how to start the process. My husband had been involved in Minnesota Politics at the grass roots level since the 2000 election. We both were.

Since that initial meeting, my husband began helping Tim with things, as well as his decision to retire from the Army National Guard. Tim was still teaching and coaching at Mankato West High School at the time. When he did file with the FEC, he announced his official decision and we drove over to Mankato to witness it. We were on his team from the very start. We began to form a good friendship with him and Gwen.

The rest is history as we worked on every Congressional campaign, went to many events for him in the 1st CD, held fundraisers, even on the 2018 Governor's race. 2022 was when we moved from Southeast Minnesota to Eden Prairie.

On Monday, I reached out to Gwen and she responded right away. She was not sure if she and Tim could make the time to come to my husband's Celebration of Life, but they did. Not as Governor and First Lady of the State, but as dear friends who were mourning the loss of a friend along with me. Both Tim and Gwen gave me big hugs. He let me know that Keith Ellison knew(he and Phil were dear friends), Ken Martin (DNC Chair), and others in the Administration knew also. Phil knew many in St. Paul. Tim and Gwen stayed for a bit before having to leave, as to not draw attention away from the main purpose of the event.

I was consoled and told, "We will be in touch."

Tim Walz would have made an awesome VP. But still at the helm of Minnesota, he will remain a dear and close personal friend for the rest of my life anyway. My son did not know his dad and I knew personally the man who would not only be our Congressman for 12 years, but our Governor for almost 8.

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Saw Gov. Tim Walz this morning at my husband's Memorial. (Original Post) ProudMNDemocrat May 22 OP
Deepest sympathy malaise May 22 #1
So sorry snowybirdie May 22 #2
I'm so sorry for your loss. yardwork May 22 #3
My heartfelt condolences to you and your family. Basso8vb May 22 #4
Ohh I'm so Sorry about your Cha May 22 #5
My deepest sympathy for your lost treasure JMCKUSICK May 22 #6
So Sorry for your loss, but many thanks for sharing your words IrishBubbaLiberal May 22 #7
We have lived here 49 years now. ProudMNDemocrat May 22 #9
When I was in college in St Paul...... IrishBubbaLiberal May 22 #11
We also know Walter Mondale as well. ProudMNDemocrat May 23 #41
It sounds like he got a proper send-off. DFW May 23 #53
Paul Wellstone's tragic death hit many of us hard. He a good man riversedge May 23 #54
I am so sorry for the loss of your husband. a kennedy May 22 #8
I'm sorry for your loss senseandsensibility May 22 #10
My wife and I are deeply sorry for your loss. Emile May 22 #12
So sorry for your loss mcar May 22 #13
So sorry to hear Figarosmom May 22 #14
my deepest sympathy for your loss 🫂🕯️ Celerity May 22 #15
Condolences, ProudMNDemocrat gademocrat7 May 22 #16
I'm so very sorry for your loss. May the memory of your husband be a blessing to you... Hekate May 22 #17
I am so very sorry for your loss. Quiet Em May 22 #18
"" AllaN01Bear May 22 #19
Very sorry for your loss. JohnnyLib2 May 22 #20
I am so sorry KT2000 May 22 #21
My deepest sympathy on the loss of your beloved husband. He sounds like a really awesome LoisB May 22 #22
I'm sorry for your loss Jarqui May 22 #23
So sorry for your loss. 70sEraVet May 22 #24
My condolences 🙏 Faux pas May 22 #25
My condolences on your loss. CentralMass May 22 #26
Deepest condolences SheltieLover May 22 #27
❤️ blogslug May 22 #28
I'm sorry for your loss MustLoveBeagles May 22 #29
Phil Castrovinci, and his family, are best kind of example of what Democrats should be. SalamanderSleeps May 22 #30
My heart breaks for you, truly! NCgayguy May 22 #31
... AKwannabe May 22 #32
Please take care of yourself. hamsterjill May 22 #33
So very sorry for your loss. Nanjeanne May 22 #34
I'm so sorry for your great loss. greatauntoftriplets May 22 #35
Condolences Stinky The Clown May 22 #36
So sorry for your loss. Solly Mack May 22 #37
I'm so sorry for your loss cate94 May 22 #38
My deepest condolences to you and your family. HeartsCanHope May 22 #39
Sorry for your loss misanthrope May 22 #40
I am so sorry for your loss UpInArms May 23 #42
My sympathies to you and your family. What a great tribute to your husband Wingus Dingus May 23 #43
My deepest condolences to you on the loss of your beloved husband. virgdem May 23 #44
So sorry for your loss. Peace be with you. I am glad your husband's true friends were there. Fla Dem May 23 #45
I'm so sorry for your loss - TBF May 23 #46
Condolences and congratulations for loving a man with a life well lived. NNadir May 23 #47
My sincerest condolences to you and your family. ificandream May 23 #48
I'm so sorry for your loss. Alliepoo May 23 #49
My condolences. I wish your family the best in this trying time. (n/t) OldBaldy1701E May 23 #50
Our deepest sympathies PMD..those who stand by us over the decades can Peacetrain May 23 #51
My condolences on the loss of your husband. Ocelot II May 23 #52
So sorry for your loss. CaptainTruth May 23 #55
Please accept my condolences MontanaMama May 23 #56
Just received a BEAUTIFUL Bouquet from the Governor and First Lady of Minnesota. ProudMNDemocrat May 23 #57
I'm so sorry for your loss. It's there anything we can do to help? Nevilledog May 23 #58
I suggest making a donantion to your Local Food Bankk in Phil's memory. ProudMNDemocrat May 23 #59
That's a wonderful idea and honors his memory in such a meaningful way. Nevilledog May 23 #61
Stay strong Jean Genie May 23 #60
The floral arrangement I received a little while ago said thst. ProudMNDemocrat May 23 #62
I'm so very sorry for you loss. femmedem May 23 #63
I am so sorry for your loss. Phil. Clouds Passing May 23 #64

Cha

(312,980 posts)
5. Ohh I'm so Sorry about your
Thu May 22, 2025, 07:36 PM
May 22

husband's passing, ProudMNDemocrat .

I'm so glad that Gov Tim Walz and FL Gwen could be there for you and you son at his Celebration of Life.. and quite an amazing Life it was.

💙🌈

JMCKUSICK

(3,118 posts)
6. My deepest sympathy for your lost treasure
Thu May 22, 2025, 07:46 PM
May 22

ProudMNDemocrat. As a guy who left MN in 2009, I knew of Gov. Walz as a Congressman.
It makes me so proud that he has carried the torch of all the great DFL heroes that MN has given to this nation so exceptionally well and I'm thrilled that you call Tim and Gwen friends.
It takes the (sorry for the Minnesotaism) ISH out of my mouth regarding all the lousy politicians we have and reminds us all there are some great public servants left.
Thank you for sharing such a bright moment in an otherwise sad and painful experience.
May they be a huge part of your grieving process as well.
Love, John

 

IrishBubbaLiberal

(2,561 posts)
7. So Sorry for your loss, but many thanks for sharing your words
Thu May 22, 2025, 07:53 PM
May 22

I had the honor to live in St Paul MN for a couple of years,
About 45 years ago.

Minnesota really has some nice fine people.

And St Paul is a great place to live.
Lots of great food from all the immigrants who moved there.

Hmong people.
Somalians

I know you and your late husband must be really good Minnesotans


I still miss Paul Wellstone

ProudMNDemocrat

(19,853 posts)
9. We have lived here 49 years now.
Thu May 22, 2025, 07:58 PM
May 22

Thank you for your kind words.

We also got to know and love Paul and Shelia Wellstone as well. When his plane went down in Eveleth in October of 2002, it was if a member of the family had died. Phil went to the Memorial at Williams Arena. I still have the pin he was given from that event. It is on my Democrat hat.

 

IrishBubbaLiberal

(2,561 posts)
11. When I was in college in St Paul......
Thu May 22, 2025, 08:08 PM
May 22

A long time ago….

When I was a college student in St Paul, St Thomas….

I went to listen to Walter Mondale speak to college students at St Thomas,
He had just left office as VP,, so it must of been in 1981…

Mondale gave his speech, and took questions from students for awhile,,
And then we could after he answered those questions,,, walk up
and shake his hand..

I will never forget as Mondale shook my hand….he looked surprised at
the college VP button I was wearing…”Tom Hauser for VP”,,
Mondale laughed and said to me ‘Why would anyone run for VP!”

I told Mondale that it’s was a Frat buddy running for student office.


(on 2nd thought maybe it was Tom Hauser’s brother for VP)

ProudMNDemocrat

(19,853 posts)
41. We also know Walter Mondale as well.
Fri May 23, 2025, 07:24 AM
May 23

Being involved in State and Local politics afforded my late husband and I opportunities to meet and get to know people like Walter Mondale, Arnie Carlson, Paul Wellstone, Al Franken, and many more who would go on to posts they hold now.

Years ago after Ken Martin became the State Chair of the Minnesota DFL, he saw Phil's Democratic Party shirt he was wearing at a Central Committee meeting and asked where he got it. "My wife made this for me," Well wouldn't you know it! Ken asked to have one made for him as well and he gladly paid my fee. Now he is the Chair of the National Party and will do a fabulous job.

I will do what I can to continue my husband's work to save this fragile democracy for my children and theirs.

DFW

(58,482 posts)
53. It sounds like he got a proper send-off.
Fri May 23, 2025, 11:16 AM
May 23

I have never been to Minnesota. However, my family has been friends with the so-called "Minnesota Democratic Mafia" since 1948, when my grandmother became a heavily involved New York fundraiser for the Senate Campaign of the Mayor of Mineapolis (guy named Humphrey). HHH got me my Senate Page job when I was 15, and my dad, as a member of the DC print press, knew them all while he was alive. Mondale was "Fritz" even to me, including while he was a Senator and VP under Carter. Max Kampelman, the arms negotiator, was one of the "circle," and the last two members that I still see, Norm Ornstein and Al Franken, are still around. I have met Amy Klobuchar and Tina Smith, but never got to know them well. I met Amy Klobuchar at the Emily's List annual thing in DC in 2006, when she made her first Senate run, and was impressed even then. For a place I have never been, I have run into many impressive people who came from there over the years.

riversedge

(76,552 posts)
54. Paul Wellstone's tragic death hit many of us hard. He a good man
Fri May 23, 2025, 11:33 AM
May 23

and a loss to all of us. I lived in Minneapolis at the time-actually in MN for about 25 years near Lake Harriet. We used to roller blade around the lake --at the time. U of Minneapolis--MN is my alma mater.
Grieve as you have to--it is goof for the soul. But it does get better--good memories stay with us.


a kennedy

(33,924 posts)
8. I am so sorry for the loss of your husband.
Thu May 22, 2025, 07:58 PM
May 22

How wonderful of the Governor and his wife to come for awhile. My heart feels your pain. 🙏🏻

Figarosmom

(6,830 posts)
14. So sorry to hear
Thu May 22, 2025, 08:21 PM
May 22

About the death of your husband.

Glad tbe Governor was there to comfort you and celebrate his life.

gademocrat7

(11,558 posts)
16. Condolences, ProudMNDemocrat
Thu May 22, 2025, 08:27 PM
May 22

On the loss of your beloved husband. What a comfort for you that Governor Walz and his wife came to your husband’s memorial.

LoisB

(11,073 posts)
22. My deepest sympathy on the loss of your beloved husband. He sounds like a really awesome
Thu May 22, 2025, 08:48 PM
May 22

man. I wish you strength and peace on your journey forward.

Jarqui

(10,690 posts)
23. I'm sorry for your loss
Thu May 22, 2025, 08:59 PM
May 22

One of the blessings of 2024 for me was becoming aware of Tim Walz and his family.
It is wonderful that you became friends with such a good man and family.
Tim Walz is miles better than anyone in the Trump admin (naturally including TFG)

70sEraVet

(4,679 posts)
24. So sorry for your loss.
Thu May 22, 2025, 09:00 PM
May 22

It sounds like you and your husband made a strong team, working to make Minnesota AND the country a better place!
I'm sure there are MANY who will miss him.

Faux pas

(15,783 posts)
25. My condolences 🙏
Thu May 22, 2025, 09:18 PM
May 22

to all who knew and loved your husband, and healing vibes to you and your family.

SalamanderSleeps

(903 posts)
30. Phil Castrovinci, and his family, are best kind of example of what Democrats should be.
Thu May 22, 2025, 10:04 PM
May 22

So, I will pile on.

“When life itself seems lunatic, who knows where madness lies? Perhaps to be too practical is madness. To surrender dreams — this may be madness. Too much sanity may be madness — and maddest of all: to see life as it is, and not as it should be!”

― Miguel de Cervantes Saavedra, Don Quixote

Somewhere, I know Phil is smiling, maybe even laughing a bit, because he fought the good fight and taught so many others to do the same.

NCgayguy

(253 posts)
31. My heart breaks for you, truly!
Thu May 22, 2025, 10:10 PM
May 22

Your post brought to tears! I know too well about all you are about to experience. Please know I really do care. I wish I could hug you right now!

May You Be Healthy, Safe and Loved!
Reis

hamsterjill

(16,098 posts)
33. Please take care of yourself.
Thu May 22, 2025, 10:21 PM
May 22

I'm so sorry for the loss of your husband, and I want to say "thank you" for both his and your efforts in working on the campaigns.

Yes, Governor Walz would have made an awesome VP, and I hope we continue to see and hear from him in the years to come. He has a knack for connecting with people in a simple, genuine way.

HeartsCanHope

(1,120 posts)
39. My deepest condolences to you and your family.
Thu May 22, 2025, 11:32 PM
May 22

Thank you for taking the time amid your grief to lift us up by reminding us there are good men and women fighting hard for our democracy. You and your family will be in my thoughts.

Wingus Dingus

(9,173 posts)
43. My sympathies to you and your family. What a great tribute to your husband
Fri May 23, 2025, 08:22 AM
May 23

that Gov. Walz appeared!

TBF

(35,165 posts)
46. I'm so sorry for your loss -
Fri May 23, 2025, 10:01 AM
May 23

and the Tim we "met" during the campaign, would absolutely take time to stop in with his condolences - he seems like such a genuine person. Take care.

Alliepoo

(2,726 posts)
49. I'm so sorry for your loss.
Fri May 23, 2025, 10:54 AM
May 23

Please accept my condolences. Wishing peace and comfort for you and your family.

Ocelot II

(125,910 posts)
52. My condolences on the loss of your husband.
Fri May 23, 2025, 11:04 AM
May 23

I'm very sorry for your loss. It must have been some comfort that Gov. Walz and Gwen came to his memorial service.

ProudMNDemocrat

(19,853 posts)
57. Just received a BEAUTIFUL Bouquet from the Governor and First Lady of Minnesota.
Fri May 23, 2025, 12:15 PM
May 23

This I was NOT expecting!

I am floored beyond belief.

ProudMNDemocrat

(19,853 posts)
59. I suggest making a donantion to your Local Food Bankk in Phil's memory.
Fri May 23, 2025, 01:28 PM
May 23

People will need food during this difficult time and food is life.

I should have noted that in my original post.

Jean Genie

(500 posts)
60. Stay strong
Fri May 23, 2025, 01:38 PM
May 23

My condolences on your loss.
Tim and Gwen Walz are good, caring, decent people - much more than can be said for the present occupant of the white house.

ProudMNDemocrat

(19,853 posts)
62. The floral arrangement I received a little while ago said thst.
Fri May 23, 2025, 02:37 PM
May 23

Tim and Gwen are GOOD people. Tim's moral ethics were shaped before his father died when he was 17 to the man he is today.

femmedem

(8,521 posts)
63. I'm so very sorry for you loss.
Fri May 23, 2025, 06:13 PM
May 23

You were lucky to have such deeply held, common values with your beloved; the rest of us were lucky to have the two of you walking your deeply ethical, compassionate walk.

I'm glad you have Tim Walz's friendship as you grieve. I hope you have lots of other support, too.

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